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Câu hỏi của phụ huynh:

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Life Mentor trả lời:

Bạn hỏi đúng người đúng tội rồi. Mình thật sự đi sưu tầm các câu hỏi này, đưa vào 1 file các bạn ạ. Và buổi tối nằm ôm nhau với con là mở file ra để hỏi nhau. Không trượt ngày nào.

Tụi nhỏ rất thích được hỏi. Hôm nào mẹ mệt và quên là tụi nó đòi bằng được. Giống như 1 nghi thức trước khi đi ngủ vậy đó.

Tác dụng kì diệu là: Mẹ hiểu con nhiều hơn, con gắn bó sâu sắc với mẹ hơn. Các bạn có biết, người ta làm 1 thí nghiệm, đưa ra 40 câu hỏi sâu sắc, để 2 người xa lạ hỏi nhau. Chỉ sau mấy tiếng thí nghiệm, hai người cảm thấy hiểu nhau đến tường tận, và cảm mến đến yêu nhau luôn không?

Đứa trẻ của bạn cũng sẽ bị "thôi miên" như thế nếu như được trò chuyện với bạn hằng ngày bằng những câu hỏi sâu sắc như vậy.

Mình thực sự khuyến khích bạn hãy thực hành hàng ngày. Đây là việc dễ nhất bạn có thể làm, mà tác dụng tuyệt vời.

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What is something you like about yourself

1. What is one of your earliest memories
2. What’s one of your favorite memories
3. What’s the hardest part of your life right now?
4. What do you worry about the most?
5. What helps you feel better when you’re upset or stressed?
6. How can I help when you’re upset or stressed?
7. What hurts your feelings?
8. What’s the best compliment you’ve ever gotten?
9. What does your perfect day look like?
10. If you could be famous, would you? What would you want to be famous for
11. What was the best (or worst) thing that happened at school today?
12. What was something that made you laugh today?
13. Who would you not want to sit by in class? Why?
14. What was your favorite part of lunch or recess?
15. What part of the day do you look forward to?
16. What part of the day do you dread
17. Are there any bullies in your classes?
18. Who is your best friend? What do you like about him/her? What do you think they like about you?
19. Are you happy with the number of friends you have?
20. Do you ever feel lonely or left out?
21. What makes a good friend?
22. Who in your class is a really good friend to others?
23. What makes someone a bad friend?
24. Has anyone ever been a bad friend to you
25. What does it mean to be popular at your school?
26. Do you want to be popular?
27. What do you think true popularity looks like?
28. Would you consider yourself more shy or outgoing?
29. Is there anyone at school that you would like to get to know better?
30. Is there anyone at school who seems to get left out or teased a lot?
31. What’s your most embarrassing moment
32. Do your friends have boyfriends/girlfriends
33. What makes a healthy relationship
34. Do you have a girlfriend/boyfriend?
35. What qualities do you want in someone you would want to date?
36. Is there anyone you have a crush on?
37. What do you like about them?
38. Is there anything about them that you’re not sure about or might be a “red flag”?
39. Do you know anyone who’s gay?
40. Does anyone treat them differently?
41. What do you think about that?
42. How old do you think you have to be to fall in love? What about getting marriied
43. Where would you go if you could travel anywhere?
44. What is your goal in life?
45. What do you hope your life will be like 10 years from now
46. If you had $100 (or $1000, etc.) to spend, how would you spend it?
47. Would you ever get a tattoo? Why or why not? What would it be?
48. What do you like most about me/your other parent/siblings?
49. What would you change about me/ other parent/ sibling?
50. What do you think I like most about you
51. What do you think I would change about you?
52. What is something you wish I would do more often?Less often?
53. Do you feel comfortable talking to me about anything?
54. What could I do to make you feel more comfortable?
55. How do you think your friends’ family relationships compare to ours? Are they closer/more distant? Why do you think that
56. Is there anything you wish our family would do together more often?
57. Do you think the discipline in our family is fair? What would you change
58. What do you think happens after death
59. What do you think is the meaning of life?
60. Do adults automatically deserve respect? Do kids automatically deserve respect?
61. How do people earn respect?
62. How would you change the world if you could?
63. Do you think it’s ever okay to lie? What kinds of situations?
64. Who do you look up to? Why?
65. Who do you think looks up to you?
66. What do you think are the three most important traits a person could have?
67. What are three things that you are grateful for today?
68. What was the best thing that happened to you today?
69. What was the worst thing that happened to you today?
70. What was your favorite thing you learned today?
71. Who did you talk to or play with today?
72. Did you raise your hand in school today? Were you called on?
73. What special classes did you have today? Did you have art, music, or gym? What did you do in those classes?
74. What was the school lunch today?
75. Did anyone get in trouble today?
76. Did anything really funny happen today?
77. What was the hardest thing you had to do today? What was the easiest?
78. Did you do anything brave or kind today?
79. Did you read any books today? Did you like them?
80. Do you have any questions about anything that happened today?
81. What are you most grateful for today?
82. What's on the schedule for tomorrow?
83. What does your name mean? Why was that name chosen for you? Does anyone else in the family share your name or middle name?
84. What do you think your parents do for work?
85. Do you know all your grandparents' names? Do you know where they were from?
86. Do you know how your parents met? How your grandparents met?
87. What's your favorite thing to do for fun on weekends?
88. What languages do you speak in our family?
89. What's one thing that makes our family special?
90. Who in the family do you look most like? Who do you act like?
91. Who is the oldest person in your family? Who is the youngest?
92. Who is the best artist in your family? The best musician? Cook? Who's the funniest?
93. If you could swap places with one person in your family, who would it be and why?
94. What's your favorite family tradition?
95. What's something you're looking forward to?
96. What goals do you have for the next year?
97. Where do you want to live when you grow up?
98. What does your dream house look like?
99. What do you want to do for a job when you grow up? What job would you want to do the least?
100. What do you think makes a family close?
101. On a scale of 1 to 10, how strict are the parents in our family? What is the ideal number?
102. Can you list the most important rules in our family? What are they?
103. What do I and your other parent do when you do something against our rules?
104. Is the discipline in our family fair?
105. What’s the best thing about our family?
106. If you could change one thing about each of your parents, what would it be?
107. What are the most important things your parents have taught you?
108. What do you think are the most important qualities of a good parent?
109. What do you think makes a happy family?
110. Tell each person in the family why you’re glad they’re part of the family.
111. How do you think our family is the same or different from other families?
112. Do you want to have kids when you grow up? Why or why not?
113. What kind of parent will you be?
114. What are the good things about having siblings? What are the bad things?
115. What is the most important thing to do to have a good relationship with a sibling?
116. Do you have better or worse relationships with your sibling(s) than your friends?
117. What do you like best about each of your siblings?
118. Do you think you will be close to your siblings when you grow up?
119. How many of your ancestors can you name and what do you know about them?
120. Would you rather time-travel into the past to meet your ancestors or into the future to meet your descendants?
121. When your descendants look back, what do you want them to say about you?
122. How are you like each of your parents? How are you different?
123. What did you do today to help our family or make our family life better?
124. Do blended families take more work? Can they be as happy as birth families?
125. Do you ever miss your dad?
126. Do you think things would be different if your dad was still with us and I had never met your step-dad? How?
127. Even though your step-dad is not your biological dad, you know he adores you. Do you feel close to him?
128. When you grow up, do you think you and your step-sibs will stay connected?
129. Do you think it’s harder for children who have been adopted than for children who weren't?
130. Do you think it’s a good idea for kids who were adopted to look up their birth parents? Why or why not?
131. If you met your birth parents, how do you think they'd be different from us? In what way?
132. If you met your birth parents, what would you want to ask them?
133. If you met your birth parents, how would your life be different?
134. What traits do you most admire in other people?
135. Did you help anyone today?
136. Did you have a chance to be kind to anyone today?
137. Is it hard to make the choice to be kind sometimes?
138. Was anyone kind to you today?
139. Is it ever okay to treat people worse because they look different than you do?
140. Do you think it's okay to lie about your age to get into an Amusement Park with a cheaper ticket? Is it ever ok to lie?
141. Do you think your parents ever lie?
142. What kinds of lies do your friends tell their parents?
143. Does it matter if a person makes a moral or immoral choice, if no one ever knows?
144. Is it ever ok to cheat, in academics, sports, business?
145. If someone you loved was very sick but could not afford the medicine to get better, would it be okay to steal the medicine?
146. Do you think it is ever okay to share a secret that you were told in confidence? When and why?
147. What do you think the word "respect" means?
148. Do certain people in positions of authority, like parents and teachers, automatically deserve respect?
149. How does someone earn respect?
150. How do people learn respect?
151. Everybody makes poor choices sometimes. Do you remember a time when you made a choice you later regretted?
152. Did some part of you know that was a bad idea?
153. What kept you from listening to that part of you?
154. How could you support yourself to make a different choice if something similar happened again?
155. Do you swear?
156. How many of the kids at school swear?
157. What do you think about swearing?
158. What do you think the biggest problem in the world is?
159. What do you think the biggest problem in our country is?
160. What could our family do that would make the world a better place?
161. How important is money?
162. Do you think there is enough money in the world for everyone to have enough?
163. Is being a millionaire a worthwhile goal?
164. What does it mean to be a good citizen?
165. Is it important to vote?
166. What do you think about taxes?
167. Is it a good idea that everyone chips in to pay for schools and libraries and parks and roads?
168. Are there any lessons that we can learn from history that you think are super-important?
169. How would you change the world if you could?
170. What do you think the "take-away" message of this movie/book is?
171. Do you admire the hero in this movie/book? Why or why not?
172. Would you make the same choices the person in this book/movie is?
173. How did you grow your mind today?
174. Do you think you can learn anything, with enough practice?
175. Did anything make you think hard today?
176. Did anything you learned today surprise you?
177. Who is or was your favorite teacher? Why?
178. What do you like best about school?
179. What is the hardest thing about school?
180. How do you manage your homework so you can stay on top of it and feel good about it?
181. Do you think there is a difference between being smart and being wise?
182. What is your favorite time of the school day?
183. What is the most embarrassing thing that ever happened to you at school?
184. What do you know how to do, that you could teach someone else?
185. How common do you think cheating is at your school?
186. What would you do if all the other kids were planning to cheat on the final and you knew that doing so would lower your grade?
187. Do you respect your teachers? Why or why not?
188. Do you think your teacher respect you?
189. Would you ever want to be a teacher? Why or why not?
190. What do you think makes the most difference in how kids do at school? Hard work, innate ability, parental supervision, peer attitudes, how good the school is?
191. Do you think it makes sense to admit students to a college based only on academic achievement or should an attempt be made to achieve racial and ethnic diversity as well?
192. Do you think kids from wealthier school districts have an unfair advantage?
193. What do you think about home-schooling?
194. What did you learn today outside of school?
195. Do you know what EQ (emotional intelligence quotient) is?
196. If someone has a high EQ, what are they like?
197. What do you think the purpose is of the various emotions?
198. When you feel a strong emotion, what is the best way to respond to it?  
199. What animal are you most like and why?
200. If you had a box and you could turn it into anything, what would you turn it into?
201. How do you help yourself face your fears?
202. What feelings last? What feelings come and go?
203. What is one way you show love to yourself and take care of yourself?
204. What do you do to show someone you love them?
205. What is something you do to feel calm?
206. What is the funniest sound you can make?
207. What is a joke you can think of right now?
208. If our pet could talk, what would s/he say?
209. What is your favorite family tradition?
210. What is your favorite game to play as a family?
211. If you could make three family rules, what would they be?
212. What are the most important things we’ve learnt from each other?
213. What do you like best about your siblings?
214. What do you think are the most important qualities of a good parent or carer
215. What should we do more of as a family?
216. What should we do less of as a family?
217. If you could change one thing about your room, what would it be?
218. What is something your parent or carer didn’t have growing up that you are glad you have?
219. What is something you don’t need, but you’re grateful you have?
220. If you could make a rule for a day and everyone had to follow it, what would it be?
221. What do you hope never changes?
222. What day do you look forward to the most each week or each year?
223. Among our family, what are you most famous for?
224. What was your best moment today?
225. What’s something you wish everyone knew about you?
226. When you’re feeling sad, what makes you feel better?
227. Did anyone help you today?
228. Did you notice anyone struggling today? What happened?
229. How do you think (your classmate) felt when (something happened)?
230. Why do you think it’s important that friends, teachers, and students help each other during the school day?
231. Is there anything you wish you had done differently?
232. What does it mean to have courage? Have you ever had to be brave?
233. What would life be like if (someone specific, a friend in the car pool, a neighbor, a story from school) didn’t help you out today?
234. Can you think of a helpful thing you wish you had done today?
235. Can you think of one act of kindness you would like to share tomorrow?
236. Are you feeling sorry about anything that happened today? (Admitting mistakes shows kids that no one is perfect, and opens the way for them to share meaningful apologies).
237. Today I heard about (something) on the news. I wonder how that experience would have felt? I wonder how we can help?
238. How do you make yourself feel better when you feel frustrated or angry at school? What about bored or tired? Excited?
239. Do you think your teacher ever feels frustrated, tired, or angry at school? How do you think s/he copes with those feelings?
240. Can you imagine being a teacher at your school? A bus driver? A recess monitor? How do you think you would feel doing those jobs?
241. Did you learn anything confusing today? Maybe I can help make sense of it.
242. If you could set the lesson plan for tomorrow, what would you want to learn?
243. What are you proud of today?
244. What's the best thing about being a girl (or boy)? What's the hardest thing?
245. Can you name something you love or think is special about our family today?
246. What is one thing you hope to do better tomorrow?
247. Are there any new kids at school? How could we make them feel welcome?
248. If you won a grand prize of $1,000, how would you spend it?
249. If you won $1,000 and could not spend it on yourself or your family, how would you spend it?
250. If you could only keep one toy, what would it be?
251. If you could only keep one toy, to whom would you give the rest?
252. If you could change one thing in the world, what would you change?
253. Do you know anyone in school who has trouble making friends? How could you help?
254. What are the three most interesting things about you?
255. Name five reasons you’re glad to be alive.
256. If you could have any super power, what would it be and why?
257. If you had a time machine for a day, what would you do with it?
258. What’s your favorite song? Why?
259. What do you want to be when you grow up? Why?
260. What’s your favorite movie? Why?
261. Why do you think kids put rings in their eyebrows and noses and bellybuttons?
262. How about tattoos? Do you think you would ever want to do that? Why or why not?
263. If we could go anywhere you wanted on vacation, where would you choose? Why?
264. If you could have a conversation with anyone in history, who would it be?
265. What would you want to ask them?
266. If your best friend could be anyone from a book you have read, who would it be?
267. If you could change one thing about your appearance, what would it be?
268. If you had to choose only three words to describe yourself, what would you say?
269. Is there anything about you that inspires other people in any way?
270. What is your idea of an ideal day?
271. If you could instantly become an expert in something, what would it be?
272. Would you rather live in a castle, on a boat, or on a cloud?
273. If you were invisible where would you go and what would you do?
274. If you could go back in time and give your younger self advice, what would you tell yourself?
275. If you could go forward in time and give your older self advice, what would you tell yourself?
276. What is a quality you wish you could have more of?
277. What would you like to become better at?
278. If you could ask anyone for help, who would it be and why?
279. What scares you the most and why?
280. What's the most embarrassing thing that ever happened to you?
281. What one thing that you did in the past would you like to change if you could have a do-over?
282. What makes you feel better when you're upset?
283. What things are you not great at yet that you want some day to be good at? How much do you think you would have to practice to get good at those things?
284. What is your biggest goal this year?
285. When do you feel the most proud of who you are?
286. What is your favorite thing about our relationship?
287. What is your least favorite thing about our relationship?
288. Do you feel like you could talk with me about anything at all?
289. What would you be most likely to want to lie to me about? Why?
290. If you got into really big trouble, how do you think I would respond?
291. Is there something I can do better as your parent that I am not doing now?
292. If we had a special day together what would you want to do?
293. Do I ever embarrass you?
294. What are the most important things I have taught you?
295. If you had to choose only three words to describe me as a parent, what would you say?
296. If you and I could switch places for a day, what are the first things you would do?
297. What three words do you think best describe our family?
298. Do you think your friends talk to their parents?
299. What kind of car would you like to drive?
300. What skill or hobby would you most like to learn in the future?
301. If you could go anywhere in the world, what place would you most want to travel to? Why?
302. If you could sign up for one travel experience — like bungee jumping, skydiving, horseback riding, surfing, scuba diving, exploring ruins — what would it be?
303. Do you think you'll attend college? What kind of campus do you imagine you'll want?
304. Do you want to have kids? How many?
305. What are you looking forward to most about getting older?
306. How do you think your generation will change the world for the better?
307. What do you think will be most different about living in the future?
308. Is there anything that scares or worries you about the future?
309. What's the first thing you remember?
310. What's a memory that makes you happy?
311. What's the luckiest thing that's ever happened to you?
312. What's the best present you ever got?
313. What was the best trip you ever took?
314. What was the best birthday you ever had?
315. What's the last thing that made you laugh really hard?
316. What's your favorite age to be so far?
317. What's the strangest thing that's ever happened to you?
318. What's the best advice you've ever received?
319. How did you meet your best friend? What was your first impression of them?
320. Where is your favorite place in the world, and what's your happiest memory there?
321. What was your most embarrassing moment?
322. What's one mistake you wish you could go back and fix?
323. What's one thing you've done that you wish you could do again?
324. What's your favorite book? Why?
325. What's your favorite TV show? Why?
326. What's your favorite movie? Why?
327. Who is your favorite character in any of the above? Why?
328. What's your favorite toy or game? Why?
329. What’s your favorite color?
330. What's your favorite number?
331. What's your favorite word?
332. What's your favorite sports team?
333. What's your favorite song right now?
334. What's your favorite thing to eat for breakfast? Lunch? Dinner? Dessert? Snack?
335. What's your favorite joke?
336. What does your favorite outfit look like?
337. What's your favorite subject in school?
338. What's your favorite holiday?
339. If you had a time machine, what time would you travel to? What would you do?
340. If you could make any invention in the world, what would you invent?
341. If you won a million dollars, what would you buy?
342. If you could change your name, what would you change it to? Why?
343. If you could have one superpower, what would it be?
344. If you were a parent, what new rules would you make for your family? Which ones would you ditch?
345. If you were the principal of your school, what new rules would you make? Which ones would you ditch?
346. If you were president of the country, what new laws would you make? Which ones would you ditch?
347. If you were stranded on a desert island, what three things would you want to have with you?
348. If you could switch places with anyone for a day, who would you pick?
349. If you saw a shooting star, what would you wish for?
350. If you could be a celebrity, what would you want to be famous for?
351. If you could teleport, where would you go? Why?
352. If you had to come up with a family crest and a motto, what would it be?
353. If you could live in any fictional world, which one would you choose? Why?
354. If you could switch places with your pet for a day, what would your day be like?
355. If your stuffed animals could talk, what would they say?
356. If you woke up and there were suddenly no rules, what's the first thing you would do?
357. If you could only eat one food for the rest of your life, what would it be?
358. If you were given permission to make the biggest mess ever, what would you do?
359. What's your silliest talent?
360. If you could choose one of your toys to come to life, which one would you pick? Why?
361. Would you rather take a trip to a city or the beach?
362. Would you rather have the power to fly or the power to be invisible?
363. Would you rather explore the bottom of the ocean or the deepest reaches of outer space?
364. Would you rather be able to wake up earlier or go to bed later?
365. Would you rather be super lucky or super smart?
366. Would you rather time travel to the past to see dinosaurs, or to the future to see what's to come?
367. What's your best talent?
368. What's one thing you wish you were better at?
369. What's one thing that makes you unique?
370. What qualities do you look for in a friend?
371. Who is someone you look up to? Why?
372. What do you like to daydream about?
373. What's one thing I don't already know about you?
374. When was the last time you had to do something really hard? How did you do it?
375. When was the last time you went out of your way to be nice to someone? What did that feel like?
376. What worries you most?
377. Who knows you the best?
378. What's the wackiest dream you've had recently?
379. Who has been your favorite teacher so far? Why?
380. What makes you feel confident?
381. What is your favorite kind of story?
382. If you lived in a treehouse what would it look like?
383. What makes someone a good friend?
384. If you could have one superpower, what would it be?
385. If you could time travel where would you go?
386. What are you thankful for today?
387. It feels good to do good. What made you feel good today?
388. How did someone help you today?
389. What is something that you don’t need, but that you are really grateful you have?
390. What was the best part of your day?
391. What is a silver-lining that you noticed recently?
392. What can you do to make tomorrow a great day?
393. What do you say to yourself when something is hard?
394. What is one thing you are proud of?
395. If you could discover something new, what would it be?
396. If you could solve one problem in the world, what would it be and why?
397. What is something that you believe that someone else might disagree with?
398. What animal are you most like and why?
399. What sound does a cat make?
400. What do you want to do on your birthday?